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Why Would Anyone Ask A Sex Worker For Advice?
Prostitutes counsel and console their clients as an integral part of their profession. Every day
of the week, powerful and accomplished men get naked literally and emotionally with the provider of their choice and end up sharing things they "have never told anyone else." Sometimes they just want a
non-judgmental listener. Other times they desire insight and feedback. Sex workers not only have a unique knowledge and experience base from which to dispense valuable advice and insight, they usually possess a
level of intuition and empathy that is rare even in service oriented professions such as nursing and counseling.
What Kinds Of Things Does A Sex Worker Know?
That depends upon which branch of the sex industry they have worked in. Prostitutes tend to be
experts in the correct use and eroticization of safer sex techniques. They also know a lot about helping others achieve orgasms, especially when sexual dysfunction is a hindrance. Years of "hands-on"
experience "in the field" can add a more realistic and practical dimension to sex education, usually with humor and devoid of the shame and embarrassment that some sex educators suffer from.
What Unique Benefit Does A Sex Worker's Perspective Offer?
All sex workers see two sides to life: the side people will talk about openly and the side people
are ashamed of and secretive about. If it has to do with sex, most people still carry a lot of emotional baggage (primarily shame). The sex worker becomes both a conduit for this shame (when the client or customer
projects her/his shame onto the sex worker) as well as a confessor for the guilty (when the client or customer shares her/his feelings and thoughts as a form of catharsis and healing). This tendency for the consumer
of sexual services to "confess" and the sex worker's skills at making strangers feel comfortable sharing their secrets, combine to create a forum where many potent emotional events can and do occur. For
instance, a man may come to see a prostitute ostensibly for sexual release and inside of one hour find that he is weeping over the recent death of a family member in the arms of this affectionate and understanding
provider. After several years and a few hundred or thousand clients, a sex worker can obtain a great deal of expertise in facilitating emotional release. The sex worker perspective offers illumination and acceptance
of those parts of life that are too embarrassing and shameful to talk about with others. And that perspective facilitates vital paths to healing. You are only as sick as your secrets, a twelve step program
proclaims. Many men are instinctively drawn to prostitution because it provides them with this all too rare opportunity to be seen for exactly who and what they are and still feel good about themselves. I have
chosen to offer men and women the same opportunity for complete disclosure and acceptance with our clothes on.
What Do You Mean When You Say "In The Tradition Of The Ancient Sacred Prostitutes?"
Since there is a ton of literature on the topic, I will allow others to answer that question for
me:
"When the Goddess of Love was still honored, the sacred prostitute was a virgin in the
original sense of the word (one-in-herself), a person of deep integrity whose welcome for the stranger was radiant, self-confident and sensuous. Her raison d'etre was to bring the goddess' love into direct contact
with mankind.
". . . the personal was transcended and the divine entered in. In those days, human sexuality
and the religious attitude were inseparable."
The Sacred Prostitute: Eternal Aspect of the Feminine by Nancy Qualls-Corbett, Inner City Books
1988.
"The Sacred Prostitute is the archetypal image of erotic spiritual unity. The ancient
pre-Christian traditions of women/men calling upon Goddess/God to bless, heal, and touch the people . . . was the way of the sacred prostitute."
http://www.energybodycenter.com/touch.html
I endeavor to embody this ancient concept of sex and spirituality in my work, whether I am writing
an article, delivering a lecture or dispensing professional advice. As it says at the beginning of my website: Where Sex and Spirit Come Together.
Is This Just A Cover For Prostitution?
No. Although I am proud of my past profession as a prostitute, I have transitioned into a new
career as a full time sex educator. I was a prostitute and later a courtesan for 13 years. Like most professionals in any business, I am ready to apply my experience and expertise in new venues. As a Sex Educator I
offer lectures, writing and professional advice.
Don't Sex Workers Cater To Men? What Can You Offer Women?
As a woman and as a feminist, I have a great deal of insight to offer women. As a survivor of
incest, date rape, domestic violence and other patriarchal insults to one's personhood, I also bring a deep commitment to women's rights into everything that I do. My entire identity has been and always will be
committed to eradicating the double standards that the current worldview espouses. I look forward to a time when women will not be sorted out as good girls and bad girls ala the Whore/Madonna complex. And I look
forward to a time when men will not live in terror of being labeled a "fag." I am a staunch supporter of human rights regardless of the plumbing between one's legs. Many women want to know what I have
learned about men. I am happy to share that information but I also encourage women to learn more about themselves. I have learned to empower myself on many levels, not the least of which is my right to be a sexual
being any way I choose. I am eager to share this information with other women.
What Is A Sex Educator?
Sex Educators usually have some type of formal education on the topic of sex; however there is no
licensing for Sex Educators so educational backgrounds vary. As a certified graduate of San Francisco Sex Information's Sex Educator training, I have received extensive training in all aspects of human sexuality,
including bi, gay, straight, mature and differently-abled sexuality; the sexual response cycle; reproduction; contraception; safer sex practices; HIV; sexually transmitted diseases; sexual identity; and gender
identity.
Why Not Just Pay A Licensed Therapist Instead Of You?
If you need therapy, you should see a licensed therapist. My services are not to be confused with
professional therapy. However, I can offer you these unique and rare gifts:
· Unique Insight Into Sex, Gender And Relationships Based Upon
Thirteen Years Of Intense Encounters With Thousands Of Men And Many Women
· Experience Facilitating Sexual Fulfillment As Well As Sexual, Psychological And Emotional
Healing
· My Personal Journey Of Recovery From Incest, Date Rape, Co-dependency And Domestic Violence
(Both As Victim And As Perpetrator)
· An Approach To Sexual Topics That Is Free Of Shame And Embarrassment
· Unconditional Acceptance And Transpersonal Love
· Intuitive And Spiritual Guidance
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